Africa

Friday, August 1, 2008

Trite

I haven't blogged for awhile. It's not that I don't want to it's  just that I've recently stumbled across a bunch of my friends' blogs, and I'll feel trite* writing anymore. I don't like riding in the wake of the (mad)** genius of my friends. 

The summer has been good to me. I've learned a lot. I learned that I take way to many things for granted. Such as friends. I have some of the most amazing friends in the world. I challenge any one to think that their immediate circle of friends is any better than mine! And that's the thing about my circle of friends. They aren't a circle at all. More of a horse-shoe shape I figure. Always leaving an open end for someone or something new.

Peace and Love,
-Lance

*I've fallen in love with the word trite. I don't know why. Maybe it's because I think I sound smart when I use it. Who knows. I like it.

**Reference to the John Mayer DVD "Where the Light is." If you don't have it, you need it!






Thursday, July 10, 2008

Communication at It's Finest!

I've been reading this book called "Blink." It's about the mind and the adaptive unconscious. Which is the part of the mind that gives you hunches and gives that "somethings just not right" feeling when you don't know what it is. And it's about how we can know someone's personality within just a few minutes of talking to them. (I'm not entirely sure how I feel about that but that's why I'm reading the book.)

Beside the point of adaptive unconscious, the book said (and I've been searching all morning for the exact numbers, but I forgot to highlight it and I can't find it in the book. I know that I read it though, so take my word that these are the rough estimates of what I remember) that 55% of all communication is in the intonation of the voice: the tone and coloration of what and how you say things. 35%  percent of all communication is from body language: how we use our hands and sway our bodies and shuffle our feet and drift our eyes.  But only 10% of all communication is in the actual words that we use. 

That almost makes sense to me.

 I spent some time in other countries and it's amazing how much I can communicate with someone that doesn't speak my language. 

But it makes me wonder why we spend so much of our time communicating through texts and internet. Just notice how we try to put emotion into our writing with smileys and lots of exclamation points. The world knows that it can't communicate very well through just text alone, so it's trying to put emotion in our writing. I understand that it's hard to keep up with friends that are far away, but thank God for phones! With the phone you get to communicate 45% of what you actually are trying to portray. You can't actually have any sort of "real" relationship through words alone. I mean that's just my personal opinion, but I think we put way to much time into communicating with our friends through cyber world. 

Let's begin to actually take the time to call someone. Or go get lunch with someone. Or grab some coffee with someone. Let's stop trying to define ourselves with how many friends we have on myspace and facebook. Because, let's be real, we can't honestly have 292 (that's the number of friends I have, so I'm talking to me as much as I am talking to whoever has the misfortune to stumble across this blog)  meaningful friendships. Community is about relationships, and "real" relationships at that. And that's what being a true Christian is about. Building community with those around you, and loving them. Not just knowing there name and sending a "hey what's up?" every couple of weeks. It's actually caring for them, and wanting to get to know their heart.

Now here's the disclaimer: I'm not saying that the only good way to communicate is in person. There is efficiency in texts and networking online. But that's just it. Friendships aren't about being efficient. And I'm not saying never to text and/or to get rid of your facebook/myspace, because God knows I text way to much and spend way to much time on the internet. So maybe this blog is really for me, and you've got it all together.... but maybe it's no about "you" and "me".... maybe it's about "us."

Peace and Love,
Lance

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Bitter Sweet

I'm becoming a bit home-sick, but am to thrilled to be doing what I'm doing to turn away.

Today was Eric's wedding. It was such a relief to see friends again. It may be just what I needed to finish my journey strong. God always comes through for me in the most meaningful ways. 

I went to Eric's wedding with the assumption that I'd get to hang-out and catch-up (and when I say "catch-up" I really mean catch-up; getting to know how their heart again, hearing their victories and their failures... etc) with my friends, only to realize that just a couple hours isn't enough time to catch up with just one friend. It was a bitter/sweet situation. It was so good to see good friends again, but it was so frustrating not to be able to hear their heart. But just being able to sit in the company with friends that have held my heart is enough to last me through the last stretch of my trip.

Peace and Love,
-Lance

Friday, June 27, 2008

I haven't been able to blog at all because my computer is being used to make our videos. Plus we never have any free time, and if we do it's usually used to sleep or read.

I'll do what I can though.

Peace and Love,
Lance

Sunday, June 22, 2008

iPhone Pics

Charlotte North Carolina:

Downtown Charlotte


Matt was giving us a little dancing show at his house. I'm pretty sure he was dancing to the Nelly song "Hot in hurr!


Paul is combing his beard. hmmm...


Washington DC

We took the train into DC


Abe! 

This was so amazing. Just standing there brought on a wave of emotion. This is truly what our country is about. 



Matt from our host home had a little hermit crab named Ford


My first time at a  sushi restaurant (it actually didn't have any fish in it). It's Chicken Maki


$3.76! Can you believe it?!

You probably can't read it but it says "Speed Limit enforced by Aircraft"


These guys reminded me of the movie August Rush. 


I just thought these colors looked nicely together. A nice treat for Paul and I.

Friday, June 20, 2008

Monday, June 16th

Today we planned to hook-up with a girl who was going to show us around to all the different shelters and stuff, but that fell through... So, we sat around the and finally jus decided to go to a shelter and walk in and talk to somebody. I'm not gonna lie, I wasn't a hundred percent on the idea... but 2-1, I lost.

We showed up to the "Uptown Shelter" and met an amazing woman named Linda Miller. Was the volunteer coordinator for the Uptown Shelter, and she fell in love with our project. She told us to come in the next day and she would find something -anything- for us to do to help. We were really excited that this worked out and I swallowed my pride. 

After visiting the Uptown Shelter we decided to take a train into Charlotte and walk around the city and do some sight seeing.

My breath was taken away by the massive that reminded me of Jack's beanstalk... Just by how they stretched towards the sky and never seemed to end... They rose all the way to the clouds... And I swear if you were to go to the tops of these buildings and look out, you'd see a land full of giants living in the clouds.

We walked around, taking pictures and window-shopping, when we came across a little park with a waterfall. The park was dotted with metal tables and chairs, and there were homeless men playing chess. I walked to the other side of the waterfall and found some homeless men playing Texas Hold 'em. I walked right them; a little bit of fear and shame began to flow like a stream through my veins.  I walked into a building trying to make it look like I knew what I was doing, only to find out that everything in the building was already closed.

I turned around, a little embarrassed, and walked over to the men playing poker. There was a little pale man, with red hair covered by a cheap NY hat, that seemed to a bit big for him, but you could tell he was proud just to be able to own it. It was easy for me to see that this man ran things by the way he spoke and how he moved. There were about 5 others sitting there laughing and enjoying themselves gambling with quarters and dollars.

The little pale man saw me standing watching and yelled over to me and asked "You wanna' play?! Come on! sit down! We'll deal you in!" So I pulled out two 1 dollar bills and placed them on the table, they changed me out with quarters and we started to play. They were so fast. By the time it would usually take me to shuffle and deal, we had already played three hands. I was having trouble keeping up, but the loud little red-headed man helped me to keep track of everything.

I ended up losing fifty cents on the first hand, and then a dollar. I only had fifty cents left and threw that in. I was all in. I ended up winning that hand with a queen high. So, it was totally all luck; no skill involved whatsoever. I had two dollars and fifty cents and was ready to take my fifty cent winning and leave, but how could I do that? I felt bad taking from the guys haha. So, I sat down and played a few more hands.

During one hand, between a little man from Thailand and the little guy with the NY hat and red hair, things got pretty intense. During the river card (which, if you don't know anything about this poker game, is the last card drawn) the little man from Thailand threw down his cards declaring that he had won and took all the money without letting anybody see his cards. The rest of the table, excluding myself, went insane. Expletives were being hurled everywhere and I seriously feared for my life. But for some strange reason I knew that the other guys had my back if anything had come my way. I didn't have any physical evidence that they would atnd up for me, but as soon as I as walked over to that table, some 30 to 45 minutes ago, and opened up to them and talked to them I knew that there was a connection.

The first day was amazing... and very intense. All-in-all a good first day.

Peace and Love,
Lance


Wifi finally...

We now finally have wifi here in Maryland and the Steen's house.

I've been trying to keep blogging. Writing my posts out in Microsoft Word planning to just coppy paste everything onto my blog, but it turns out that-that isn't possible, or at least I don't know how to do it.

So here are some pictures -that were supposed to go on my first blog- to tide you over until I write everything out:

Paul sleeping like a little baby
Little Matty takin' a snooze


Some random kids playing a bubble gum baseball game in Zaxby's

Matt's Dad and his hobbies

Peace and Love,
Lance